Okay, For the Record of those who do not know what's the meaning of "friend-a-fit", Friend-A-Fit means having "friends with benefits" such as you can have sex, kiss, hold hands, cuddle and do things that couples do in relationships but you have no emotional attachments. You don't have to care about their feelings being hurt when you are with another person. And they shouldn't be hurt too. (According to "Urban Dictionary" - online.)
To start this proper, I would like to say "I Believe in Friend-A-Fit !!" Hehe. I know I need not be overexcited in telling the Public this, but I'm still trying to make my stand & point over yesterday debate with my "Alfiah Coffeeshop Gang".
Here's How the Debate Went On Yesterday ...
"How could you have sex with your own friends .. You're making you're friend like a slave," Zahid Mendoza said as he still holding on to his cup of less sugar coffee while the whole debate was going on. Don't ask me why.
"No! In what way I will make my friend like a slave? It is not as if I would practice Master & Slave on them during the Lust making session," I said that as my defense statement.
"Adi, if you were to do with friends that are not so close to you, it's Ok," Rizal Abdul Karim said while having his arms folded.
Heder Monteiro then nodded his head to agree with Rizal Abdul Karim.
"It's not the matter of the proximate level of friendship that you have with your friends, it's about satisfying your Lust & your friend's Lust," I replied with a stern voice in order to make my point more concrete.
"If that's the case, I'm sorry to tell you this but, you simply don't have any principles in life," Zahid Mendoza said bluntly.
I raised my both hands up and in ironic amusement laughter I said, "What? Because of that I do not have principles in Life??."
"Donita" was there too. He was indeed speechless & clueless, and probably shocked about the whole debate. Still, with a Big Bro image he portrayed, he remained cool & steady. Way to go Boy!
Oh well, enough with the debate. I shall share with you readers, based on my personal experience, 5 Top Reasons of why "Friend-A-Fit" is A-Okay in this Civic Minded Society.
(Not in any particular Order.. But the no. 5 is the Most Priority. Hehe.)
1) Better Friendship. First of all, the higher the level of intimacy you have with your friend, is the closer your friendship you will have with your friend. This is because, you have removed the personal space boundaries with him/her. You allow him to enter the personal space which, you would distance yourself from others, due to your insecurities, trust & safety.
2) Healthy Sex. Okay, We Human Beings are horny at times. For the Hardcore ones, it would be every minute of their lives. (Haha!) Anyway, we could practice healthy sex because as you know, the rate of STD & Aids are increasing every second as the clock ticks. And We are all immune to have it if; we were to wake up one day & realized that for some human-nature-call reason we are horny, and decided to go chat channels for some hook-up. While some others, usually the old ugly people, would look for prostitutes for it. Hence, if the hook-ups that we met up or the prostitutes that the old ugly people look for has STD or Aids .... (Please help me to complete the sentence & don't forget to touch "Wood").
So, doing with friends are healthy because, 1 thing for safety sure; Our Friends Won't Want to Harm Us If They Know They Have It.
3) Genuine Feedback. In One Night Stand, most partners find it difficult to give their "ONS" party a genuine feedback of the sex that they had had. This is because, most of them probably don't bother as it is just; One Night Only thingy. Talking about this, I remembered years back when someone was giving me a Blow, it hurts my Disco Stick so much because my ONS partner had irregular set of teeth. I was like; Ouch baby, Please be a freak for a year or two to put on aluminum metal sheets on your teeth so that in future, you won't hurt others. Of course I didn't tell that off.
4) Sex Guru. Knowing that your friend will give you genuine feedback on your sex skills, you could practice more on him to make it perfect. After doing it probably a year with your friend & one fine day you try to do it on your date, your date would go like "Ah Woo .(Like Shakira song; She Wolf).. Heaven is really a place On Earth!" And thus ... Viola! You're a Sex Guru! A.k.a The Man That Knows It All.
5) Better Love Life. As much as Act Innocent people wants to deny that Love is Not About Sex, but the harsh but yet sweet truth is that, Love Is About Sex. Ok, fine. I shall moderate my thinking & say Good Sex is one of the pillar for a Good Relationship. Care, Share, bluek, bluek again till vomit and others are the other pillars of a good relationship as well.
So there you have it. The 5 Good Reasons of why getting intimate, sex, fore play, banging behind the bush - you name it, with your friends is A-Okay & in fact it is better than to do with some unknowns.
I shall end my Blog this time by stating a some parts of lyrics from one of Lady Gaga Song. It's called Love Game:
I'm on a mission, And it involves some heavy touchin' yeah.
You've indicated your interest,I'm educated in sex, yes.
And now I want it bad,Want it bad. I love game, I love game.
I can see you staring there from across the block
with a smile on your mouth and your hand on your *huh
The story of us it always starts the same with a boy and a girl and a *huh and a game!
Till the next blog, With Loads of Love (Game); Adifazely.
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