Running With Music.

I plugged in my new bright red JVC ear piece, which I never regretted buying it for ten dollars, into my ears. As I bend as low as I could to reach for my toes- to have my calf stretched, I was, at the same time, having short visuals of how the speed of my run going to start like. It was either going to be a fast or a slow start. Much depending on my mood of the day.

Like just now, I had a fast start. I was having too much tensions for what had happened earlier in the day. But after a few hundred metres of running, the pace had to reduce tremendously after I realized that, my breathing could not keep up with the speed that I had started with, mainly because; I had not been running consistently for the past two days and had couple of beers and countless sticks of cigarettes over the holidays.

As usual, I would listen to my favourite songs times and times over again, that had relations to my emotions and construals for that moment. I would not only listen, but imagine as well that I was that one that performing the played songs. I would imagine that I was performing and at the same time, dedicating the song to the person that the song was meant for. The fact that I am not an expressive person or good at expressing myself, dedicating songs is an alternative way for me to express myself well.

You see guys, music is everything. Music could be an expression of one's feelings, emotions, thoughts- you named it. To me, the best music is the kind of music that could heal one's soul. On top of that, it would also create a form of motivation for one to get over his problems through indulging in listening the song. If you were to ask me - "What's My Favourite Motivational Song?"- if someone had pissed me off, it would be Fighter by Christina Aguilera.

Six years ago, I had been betrayed by a person that I adored so much thus it had made me determined to lose weight as to have a nice figure. That was when I decided to pick up running as an hobby. (Read my article: Vanity on Oneself Does Tell A Story.)

So there I was to be seen circling around the 1 km running track, outskirts of the tennis court, swimming pool and the mini-gym. I would usually run 6-7 km, depending how satisfied I was in my running. One thing for sure; my mood would change after I had completed the run.

I guess running would really help one, take me for an example, to distress and would create a form of motivation- to strive for success, through listening of music. I would never run without my Mp3 player. First of all, I would not receive any inspiration in the run and importantly, it would demotivate me because I could listen to my own breathing which subsequently, would affect my running psychologically.

I would recommend you overweight people to try out the technique of Receiving Motivation Through Listening of Music While Running, if you guys are determined to lose weight. It had worked for me well and till this day, I would not slacken down in my running.

Remember 1 thing:

Always maintain a consistent breathing as not collapsed out of sudden. As much as you are heavy indulged in listening to your music, take note of your safety. Know your limit. Never let your emotions to be carried away so much that you have gone beyond what you could. Not Worth It At All.


Till the next blog; with Loads of Love- Adifazely.

A Dedication to All the Ass Shakers Out There: Dancing Communicates.

[This is one of my school module project that I've done months ago. I've summarized it into a appropriate blog content length as to not make it too draggy .. Enjoy reading !^^]

Okay, imagine you were dancing on dance floor. While your body was following the beat of the music through the speaker, your eyes had caught a sight of the most beautiful stranger you had ever seen in your life. You want to get to know him badly. So what would you do to get close to him? Would you asked your friend to help you out? (My BFF certainly won't do that) Would you smile or give your most stern stare? Or just went up straight to him & say "Hi"? Hmm.

Everyone has their own style & ways of doing it. But for those who always have difficulties in this, probably because you're shy, you might want to consider the following steps below to get close to the beautiful stranger, without even going up to him & say "Hi" and felt awkward after the the first word. I shall introduce you the 3 most basic types of non-verbal communication that will help you in "getting close" your beautiful stranger, that you had your eyes on, on the dance floor.

The 3 non-verbal communication codes are Kinesthetic, Haptic & Proxemic Communication. There's many interpretations we could derive from the three key points when we hit the dance floor. For example; it can show one's intention, insecurities or confidence in his or her dancing.


First Step: Creating A Message Across the Distance.

Kinesthetic communication can be described as communication by the convenient use of facial use of facial expressions and eyes contact. Imagine the guy you admired realized that you had your eyes on him. So what's next? You have to make use of kinesthetic communication to show that you are interested in him & not gossiping or picking a fight with him instead. A short sweet smile would do the trick.

Don't Give up if ...

1). He looked away. Who knows he's probably shy because you're cute. Continue on & off looking towards his direction.

2). He were to give you a stern stare. He gave you a stern stare probably because he might think that you know him. The stern stare was to recall if he have ever know you before.

The both two ques above, doesn't guarantee if the person you admire is interested in you or not. Just be patience. You must remember One Golden Rule in"reading people" which is; Always look for consistency in the behavior of the one being observed.

But please to give up if..

1). He rolled his eyes on you. (He's simply just an arrogant mother-f that does not know to receive smile as a compliment from a stranger.)

Second step: *Blink *Blink. He Winked. What's next?

So it was indeed your lucky night. You had stepped in to the club where you had found an admirer that you had your eyes on. Guess it's time to get closer to the 'fish' that you were 'preying' for. This would leads to the next step; Proxemic communication.

Proxemic communication is communicating with others by the virtue of the relative positioning of your bodies. In the discotheques, people tends to be aware of their personal space as to avoid either being harassed or accused of immodest act of harassing.

So how would you want to get close with him? You guys were like 2 metres away & the dance floor were packed with "wriggling worms". My advice; Shift your position & subtly, dance your way towards him. Your intrusion to his personal space wouldn't make him offended because, you had "send the message" earlier on.


Last step: Touch My Body !

Touch is all about Haptic communication. It's physical touch & the message that is put across. For example, a touch on the upper torso, on someone that is walking, would be a guidance to correct direction. There are several elements of touch that interpret different meanings. It goes from greeting to intimacy and others.

Haptic communication in discotheques help dancers on the dance floor to get more intimate with their partner or flirt. It has been a norm for couples on the dance floor to hold each other by shoulders to feel make them feel secure of their lover from others. If you realized that your beautiful stranger, that you had got close on the dance floor, tends to touch you frequently while dancing, it most probably means that, You Will Have A Good End To the Night.. Hehe. Or an indication that he's interested in getting to know you more. Just wait for cell phone number to be exchange.


Till the next Blog; with Loads of Love Adifazely.


(Thousand apologies for my tenses & grammar. )

The Infamous: A Tribute to Victims of Sex Video Phones Speculation.

[What Inspired me to blog this tribute? The increasing trends of sex video speculations, without the acknowledge of the involving sex parties, which resulted in increasing rate of suicides or destroying one's life. Besides that, I have two beautiful younger sisters, which I pray everyday that, they won't be victims of these inhumane speculation.]

I was reading updates from Facebook till I came across a post that talked about a current sex scandal video featuring one of our local ex-Mediacorp actress. Being kay-po, I clicked on the post to get their whole conversation. It was not long before I figured out who was the actress that they were mentioning about. Wasting no time, I began to google her name up to find out how true was the info. Then I found out, the story was actually appeared in the last Thursday paper.

Hmm. I paused. I read the whole article. I felt sad. I felt for her so bad not because she was a celebrity but, what if (touch wood!) she was my sister or this were to happen to my own sister. How am I, as a brother, able to walk down the streets receiving unwanted stares from strangers that knew about my sister's Infamous video. How am I, as brother, able to defend or stay by my sister side, when my own family members bad talked about my sister during a family gathering. How am I, as a brother, going to give moral support to my sister, at the same time controlling my anger, after all the shame she had brought to the family. I pondered till I almost teared. I still remember the every first video that featured two Malay students that were having sex at scene of a staircase. As My heterosexual friends were getting aroused from the Infamous video, I felt disgusted. Same thing was running through my mind; What if ..

As soon as I snapped out of my pondering, I lie besides my sister, she was 3 years younger than me, that was on the couch- busy playing her Facebook game and told her about this matter. As soon as I finished my lecture, she turned her focused from her notebook and looked amazed.

"She actually did that?" asked my sister, Sheila.

"Yup.. Oh Come on, don't be surprised. Celebrities are not angels after all. They have their mistakes & imperfections. But they supposed to be a Role Models for their fans," I replied in relation to the recent sex scandal story.

"Whatever it is, I'm telling you this so that you would know ... " I widened my eyes as I mentioned the last word of my sentence.

"Ya.. Ya.. I know. And as much as you are concerned about me, I am concerned about you as well," She mocked me with her sweet vicious smile.

I cracked up. "You know me well, honey." I replied to her before I stood up & stole one of her cigarettes.

If I were to give an advice to young adult couples about "Love Making" session recorded on video phone, I would tell them; "It is Always A-okay to record it, But Never A-okay to keep it." If they were smart enough to record it, they should be smart enough to delete it, & know why was it dangerous to keep such video.


Why Is It A-Okay to Record It?

I lost my virginity as early as 14 (something that I wasn't proud of) and always believe that, "Love-Making" session is a Beautiful thing. It is true when they say that "When you're in Love, the heart speaks with the heart, no words required for us to say."

I remembered there was a particular time, I had I recorded my Love Making session with my only ex-love and it was somewhat weird, but nice FOR US to view it. After viewing, both of us agreed that the passion in the "Love-Making" and it was just priceless. It was just that, I got a hard slapped on the head, Ouch!, when I jokingly told my ex-love that, "Damn, you could pass as a Hot Porn-star."

After watching it, both of us come to same thinking that the video MUST be destroyed. And obviously we didn't use video phone, oh come on; Video phone is such a child's play. We used my notebook- The bigger, the better baby..

Okay enough said of my experience. Back to the topic. My advice to you girls out there, please be careful with this increasing trends of video phone thingy. Like what Jason Mraz sang.. "Our Name is Our Virtue .." It would really bring great pain to my eyes, especially your parents & family- not forgetting race, to watch you girls trying to be naughty for the obvious wrong reason. If you decided to recorded it with your partner, just to see how funny your boyfriend face when he reached to his stage of Nirvana, Please don't forget to Delete it off. For Heaven sake.

Lastly, Never trusted your boyfriend when he said that he would keep the video with full-responsibility. This is simply because; Men are not Only Ego but They are Careless at times. Most of times for me. So ya, Be Safe Never Keep Your Sex Video. I couldn't emphasize more than this.


Till my next Blog; With Loads of Love - Adifazely.


[This is a message to a Friend, or acquaintance for now, who decided to say Goodbye to my circle of friends recently; you know who you are.

Erm dude, I still remember what you told me before when I told you that ..

"No matter how we quarreled with each other, we (Alfiah gang) would still, at the end of the day, be good with each other again"

And you replied something like, "It's good that you guys maintained the good relationship with each other."

I truly hope that you would take back your Goodbye, if you are a man of your words. Maybe you might not want to chat with me anymore, which I could understand why, but at least not to the others. Because they don't deserve it. Well, I could be full of crap at times, (who doesn't anyway), so ya la.. I think I have done my part since it was My Fault for your leave. Till then, take care. - Adifazely]