A Dedication to All the Ass Shakers Out There: Dancing Communicates.

[This is one of my school module project that I've done months ago. I've summarized it into a appropriate blog content length as to not make it too draggy .. Enjoy reading !^^]

Okay, imagine you were dancing on dance floor. While your body was following the beat of the music through the speaker, your eyes had caught a sight of the most beautiful stranger you had ever seen in your life. You want to get to know him badly. So what would you do to get close to him? Would you asked your friend to help you out? (My BFF certainly won't do that) Would you smile or give your most stern stare? Or just went up straight to him & say "Hi"? Hmm.

Everyone has their own style & ways of doing it. But for those who always have difficulties in this, probably because you're shy, you might want to consider the following steps below to get close to the beautiful stranger, without even going up to him & say "Hi" and felt awkward after the the first word. I shall introduce you the 3 most basic types of non-verbal communication that will help you in "getting close" your beautiful stranger, that you had your eyes on, on the dance floor.

The 3 non-verbal communication codes are Kinesthetic, Haptic & Proxemic Communication. There's many interpretations we could derive from the three key points when we hit the dance floor. For example; it can show one's intention, insecurities or confidence in his or her dancing.


First Step: Creating A Message Across the Distance.

Kinesthetic communication can be described as communication by the convenient use of facial use of facial expressions and eyes contact. Imagine the guy you admired realized that you had your eyes on him. So what's next? You have to make use of kinesthetic communication to show that you are interested in him & not gossiping or picking a fight with him instead. A short sweet smile would do the trick.

Don't Give up if ...

1). He looked away. Who knows he's probably shy because you're cute. Continue on & off looking towards his direction.

2). He were to give you a stern stare. He gave you a stern stare probably because he might think that you know him. The stern stare was to recall if he have ever know you before.

The both two ques above, doesn't guarantee if the person you admire is interested in you or not. Just be patience. You must remember One Golden Rule in"reading people" which is; Always look for consistency in the behavior of the one being observed.

But please to give up if..

1). He rolled his eyes on you. (He's simply just an arrogant mother-f that does not know to receive smile as a compliment from a stranger.)

Second step: *Blink *Blink. He Winked. What's next?

So it was indeed your lucky night. You had stepped in to the club where you had found an admirer that you had your eyes on. Guess it's time to get closer to the 'fish' that you were 'preying' for. This would leads to the next step; Proxemic communication.

Proxemic communication is communicating with others by the virtue of the relative positioning of your bodies. In the discotheques, people tends to be aware of their personal space as to avoid either being harassed or accused of immodest act of harassing.

So how would you want to get close with him? You guys were like 2 metres away & the dance floor were packed with "wriggling worms". My advice; Shift your position & subtly, dance your way towards him. Your intrusion to his personal space wouldn't make him offended because, you had "send the message" earlier on.


Last step: Touch My Body !

Touch is all about Haptic communication. It's physical touch & the message that is put across. For example, a touch on the upper torso, on someone that is walking, would be a guidance to correct direction. There are several elements of touch that interpret different meanings. It goes from greeting to intimacy and others.

Haptic communication in discotheques help dancers on the dance floor to get more intimate with their partner or flirt. It has been a norm for couples on the dance floor to hold each other by shoulders to feel make them feel secure of their lover from others. If you realized that your beautiful stranger, that you had got close on the dance floor, tends to touch you frequently while dancing, it most probably means that, You Will Have A Good End To the Night.. Hehe. Or an indication that he's interested in getting to know you more. Just wait for cell phone number to be exchange.


Till the next Blog; with Loads of Love Adifazely.


(Thousand apologies for my tenses & grammar. )